The Five Agreements

by Brad Axelrad on December 19, 2010

Don Miguel Ruiz is one of my favorite Authors. He simplifies down how to create a peaceful life that is full of purpose, clarity and success, in all aspects. Read these agreements, and read the book, and practice this higher level of being every moment you can. Like he says, do your best…

The Five Agreements

1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are tired as opposed to well rested. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

5. BE SKEPTICAL, BUT LEARN TO LISTEN
Don’t believe yourself or anybody else. Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear: Is it really the truth? Listen to the intent behind the words, and you will understand the real message.

Enjoy these words and live your purpose! For the world is waiting you to do so.

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Kathy January 17, 2012 at 1:14 pm

#1..Speak with integrity….always the truth…..with kindness and love. Saying nothing sometimes is the best. Never discipline in anger and retaliation…but with a loving and teaching moment….listening to and discussing with….and using appropriate discipline.
Everyone has the right to have their own opinion about things…just as we do. With each year comes more experience and growth. Smile! Remember “You might be on Candid Camera” or little eyes soak in everything they hear and see. Be proud of who you are and always do your best. Just thought I’d add a bit of my own philosophy.
Have a wonderful week!

baxelrad January 17, 2012 at 3:54 pm

Beautifully said, Kathy!

I want to hear more! What else can you share for our expansion?

greg August 10, 2013 at 4:56 pm

I have a problem understand the 2nd agreement. So if someone says something nice to you….do we still not take that personally? I’m confused :=(

Brad Axelrad August 20, 2013 at 12:33 pm

I think the key is to not go unconscious either way. It’s good to take things in and enjoy, but equally as bad to make it about ourselves – both the good and bad.
Miguel is simply talking about how in the walking dream state, people are projecting their experience of you on to you. It may not may not be true..
We must be mindful that we are all in our own dream.

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